"I don’t understand why I need a family. I mean, my friends understand me so much better. My siblings don’t bother about the family too, so why should I care? I go home to an empty house and no one bothers to ask about my life. So what’s the purpose of family? Who says blood is thicker than water?"
That was how I (Isabel) felt throughout my growing up years. I didn’t understand the purpose and importance of the family unit, and I definitely preferred my friends to my family anytime.
However, as I read the Bible, I saw that the whole concept of family is extremely important to God. It was introduced at the very beginning in Genesis. “God blessed [Adam and Eve] and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it’” (Genesis 1:28a). Part of the plan for creation was for men and women to marry, have children, and together become a family, the essential building block of human society and of the Church.
The family unit is important to God because it reveals His character like nothing else in creation does. The love and marriage between a husband and wife provide a glimpse of Christ's passionate devotion to us, the Church, as His bride. In the same way, the rollercoaster rides of parenthood offer a compelling picture of Father God's tenderness and patience toward us as His children even though we rebel against Him.
Every Family is Imperfect
In God’s original plan, each member of the family has a God-ordained role. When each person fulfils it, husband and wife are in perfect communion, children feel safe and loved, and parents have the honour they deserve. The ideal family reflects God’s character and love in its fullness!
However, when sin crept in, this ideal became impossible to attain. So what originally was supposed to be a place of love, peace, and harmony, has become full of hurt, pain, and strife.
Some of us come from single-parent or broken homes. Some of us have intact families. Some of us have parents who are physically present, but emotionally absent. Some of us have loving homes. Our situations are different, but there’s one thing we have in common–none of our families are perfect. Even families that appear loving and wholesome have their fair share of angry words, fights, and simmering tensions that go on behind closed doors. Because we are imperfect and sinful people, none of us can fulfil God’s ideal for our families. Every family is dysfunctional in its own way!
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